Faith in Action Blog
Mary Rose (Bacani ’93) Valenti, the recently retired TV producer/reporter who left the news business to turn her full attention to motherhood, has written two new columns for the Knights of Columbus’ “Fathers for Good” website. In the first, Little Rich Girl, she describes how, in striving to give her daughter, Chiara, a simple life, she has come to appreciate simplicity all the more for herself:
I provide a daily rhythm in the home that’s important for me as a human being. Manual labor, involving my whole person, connects me to reality, fulfills me wholly because I’m using my body. And if I move slowly and rhythmically, almost prayerfully, my child absorbs this, too. She imitates not only what I do, but the spirit with which I do it.
When Chiara was born, I stopped “working.” I now have a work that demands my whole being. Aside from my love, the greatest thing I can offer is a spirit of poverty that enriches her life.
This theme continues in the second column, A Nightly Prayer, in which Mrs. Valenti writes about other ways that motherhood has shaper her outlook:
“… our lifestyle decisions have surprised us. We always thought we were city people, but we found our happiness in the suburbs, close to quiet nature and away from the busyness. We are happily getting rid of stuff and are so content with owning very few things. We are starting to appreciate the mystery of Sunday, our Sabbath, when we let ourselves rest.”
Mrs. Valenti also reveals the exciting news that she and her husband, Richard, are now expecting their second child! May God bless their growing family!
Rosary: Friday, September 27, at 7:00 p.m. in Our Lady of the Most Holy Trinity Chapel
Funeral Mass: Saturday, September 28, 10:00 a.m. in Our Lady of the Most Holy Trinity Chapel
Graveside service: Immediately following the Funeral Mass, Santa Paula Cemetery, located off Santa Paula Street at 380 Cemetery Road
Reception: The Grimm’s home in Ojai at 10882 Creek Road
If planning to attend the reception,
please consider bringing a finger food or dessert.
Thomas Aquinas College chaplain Rev. Hildebrand Garceau, O.Praem. (’78), reports that a beloved alumna, Rosie Grimm (’10), passed into eternity earlier this evening after a protracted battle with cancer. She died surrounded by her family, who had just completed praying the Rosary. It was the most peaceful and beautiful death, Fr. Hildebrand says, that he has ever seen.
Rosie’s brother Jack (’15) has sent out the following reflection to friends and family:
My sweet sister Rosie died at about 6:20 tonight, after praying the Rosary with the family. She has been the most wonderful example of courage and faith that I have ever known or seen, as well as being a deeply encouraging and loving friend.
“Where shall we find a better daughter, or a kinder sister, or a truer friend?”
I look forward to seeing her again. May she rest in peace.
Please pray for the repose of Rosie’s soul and the consolation of her family.
Bl. Miguel Pro, pray for us!
Below is the latest update on Rosie Grimm (’10), from her sister Wendy Irene (‘99):
Thank you so much, everyone, for your prayers and to those who helped look for a relic of Bl. Miguel Pro. Deo gratias, a first-class relic has turned up — within driving distance! — which will arrive in a few hours. Our dear Jesuit friend will come to bless Rosie with it tonight. While Rosie’s physical condition continues to seriously deteriorate, we have already felt blessings flowing from Fr. Pro’s intercession and your prayers to him!
We want to invite you to join with us in praying a novena to Bl. Miguel Pro. We’re praying the following prayers, the first of which is by Fr. Pro. I asked Rosie what to request for her; she said, ask for a cure and for the same things Fr. Pro prayed for.
Prayer of Bl. Miguel Pro
Does our life become from day to day more painful, more oppressive, more replete with afflictions? Blessed be He a thousand times who desires it so. If life be harder, love makes it also stronger, and only this love, grounded on suffering, can carry the Cross of my Lord Jesus Christ. Love without egotism, without relying on self, but enkindling in the depth of the heart an ardent thirst to love and suffer for all those around us: a thirst that neither misfortune nor contempt can extinguish ... I believe, O Lord; but strengthen my faith ... Heart of Jesus, I love Thee; but increase my love. Heart of Jesus, I trust in Thee; but give greater vigor to my confidence. Heart of Jesus, I give my heart to Thee; but so enclose it in Thee that it may never be separated from Thee. Heart of Jesus, I am all Thine; but take care of my promise so that I may be able to put it in practice even unto the complete sacrifice of my life. Amen.
Blessed martyr of Christ the King, Father Miguel Agustin Pro, you are a special patron of those who labor, those in illness, depression, or despair. You are also a friend of musicians, the captives, and all who work toward social justice. Your beloved brothers, the Jesuits, revere you and count you among the ranks of their saints. You love your people of Mexico and all those loyal to the Church. I thank the Sacred Heart for loving you so dearly. I pray to Our Lady of Guadalupe whom you love so dear, to intercede for the cause of your canonization. I pray that you remember me in your eternal and well-deserved rejoicing, and also my needs: a cure for Rosie, if that’s God’s will, and that she receive all the graces of Fr. Pro’s prayer. Through your courageous life and martyrdom you have won the crown of life everlasting. Remember me, Blessed Miguel, for I remember you. Viva Cristo Rey! Viva la Virgen de Guadalupe!
Most Reverend John F. Donoghue
Two years ago, we featured an item about Col. Sam Shaneyfelt, USAF (’86), who was then assuming command of the 35th Operations Group at Misawa Air Base in Misawa, Japan. After completing that tour of duty, Col. Shaneyfelt has returned stateside.
“I’ve been reassigned to help manage the production of the Department of Defense’s newest fighter aircraft, the Joint Strike Fighter (F-35),” he writes. He is now working at Langley Air Force Base in Virginia at Headquarters, Air Combat Command. “I’ve traded in my lovely F-16 Fighter for a desk that doesn’t move nearly as fast,” he jokes. “But the job’s important, and I’m happy to get to work getting this fighter into the hands of capable pilots.”
One year ago Sr. Erika Brown (’11) entered the first stage of formation, or candidacy, for the Carmelite Sisters of the Most Sacred Heart of Los Angeles. Tomorrow, on the Feast of the Exaltation of the Holy Cross, Sr. Erika will enter the second stage, or postulancy. According to the Carmelites’ website, the postulancy — which typically lasts 6-9 months — is a time “to deepen the postulants’ awareness of their personal consecration to Christ through their personal commitment to prayer, doctrinal study and communal living.”
“I feel so blessed to be a part of this Carmelite community praying ‘in the heart of the Church,’” wrote Sr. Erika last year. “The Lord has been working in my life in wonderful ways. I am so grateful for my time at Thomas Aquinas College: It fostered a desire to know and love the Lord which could not be quenched. God is so good!”
Please pray for Sr. Erika as she continues to answer God’s call!
In the Catholic Business Journal, Br. Andrew James DeSilva (’03) tells about his adventures of chaperoning 24 college students on a trip to Rio de Janeiro for World Youth Day. A member of the Community of St. John, Br. Andrew James describes the pilgrimage as having three dimensions: “Service, Formation, and Pope.” The students, who mostly hailed from Seton Hall University, spent time serving the poor with the Missionaries of Charity, being formed through daily Mass and morning and night prayer, and seeing Pope Francis up close when he paid a surprise visit to the slum where they were working.
The students he brought to Rio, says Br. Andrew James, were from “very different faith levels,” yet all no doubt grew in holiness through the experience. The Holy Father, he adds, has a gift for reaching the hearts of young people:
“Pope Francis understands the thirst of our youth for an Absolute, helping them find a Name for what it is that they are searching for; giving them a direction for their journey beyond normalcy. This World Youth Day (as they all are) was an experience of the Church. A young Church who is excited, and ready to take up the challenge given to them by Jesus in the Gospel: ‘If anyone wishes to come after me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross and follow Me.’”
The last time this blog mentioned Mary Rose (Bacani ’93) Valenti, it was to report that the veteran TV producer and host was hanging up her microphone to become a fulltime mother. Now, less than two years later, we have an insight into what Mrs. Valenti’s new life is like, thanks to a column she has written for Fathers for Good, an initiative sponsored by the Knights of Columbus:
“I had traveled to different parts of the world as a television producer — from North America to Australia, from Europe to the Middle East. In my new job as a stay-at-home mom, the farthest I have to travel is from the kitchen to the bedroom and back. My previous job entailed interviewing high-profile people. Today, I am the one interrogated by a two-and-a-half year old toddler.…
“The heart of what I did professionally and what I loved about my work was telling stories. Ironically, I’ve never been pressured as much as I am pressured now by my child to come up with stories. Where are the earthworms hiding today? Did the bubble get hurt when it popped? I am doing what I love — learning, teaching, studying, storytelling, and being and being loved for just being.”
If you are in Southern California, be sure to come this weekend to a book-signing party for The Bossy Boulder, the first children’s book by self-styled artist, poet, and philosopher Monica Estill (’98). The book tells the tale of a boulder who sits atop a mountain and — he thinks — the world, until time and change humble him. It is a story of how, only in becoming small, one can achieve true greatness.
The book’s inspiration goes back to Monica’s student days when, she says, she would hike in the foothills and mountains around Thomas Aquinas College, contemplating the works of Aristotle and St. Thomas that she was reading in class. She is hopeful, she says, that the book contains truth — truth about nature that people can see — and as such will help readers to see that there is also truth about human nature and how to live happily. Her wish is for The Bossy Boulder to help change hearts and bring people to God.
When: September 8 from 12:00 p.m. – 4:00 p.m.
Where: 1272 Rice Road in Ojai
“One day he realized something important. ‘I am only a stone! I am only a stone!’ As he thought about this, the boulder began to be filled with joy.”
From her mother, Rose (Teichert ’76):
“Two weeks have passed since we received that awful prognosis, and to our great joy Rosie has been able to attend Mass with us, in her wheelchair, both yesterday and today. We do not believe that anything underlying has changed. But whether due to steroids and chemo or prayers (probably all three!), her most painful symptoms have subsided. She has increasing weakness, mostly on her left side but somewhat also on her right ... nevertheless, she is able to transfer to her wheelchair and to have some real fun with her visitors. The last two weeks have actually had a great deal of joy in them, both for Rosie and for us.
“So we continue to thank you all for your prayers and other help — we have received so much kindness — beautiful meals, lovely cards, lovely visits. Rosie and all of us are praying for your intentions.”
Thanks be to God! And please keep praying …